I don't believe in weddings ... or marriages ... I always told my friends I'd be the last in the group to get married (if at all) ... I was absolutely sure that my wedding (if it ever took place) would be a simple no-fuss affair. But ... God loves irony!
I am getting married. It's the first wedding in the friend circle (we're al in our late twenties and NO ONE seems to be in any hurry to tie the knot!) And it's going to be a completely extravagant, over-the-top, unapologetic BIG FAT INDIAN WEDDING. Yes, i'm getting the whole circus!
I blame it on a combination of pushy parents and a boyfriend who still can't believe I was serious when I suggested a "live-in relationship" as a healthy alternative to marriage!
Dont get me wrong ... I love the guy ... I've loved him for over a decade and have never had any doubts that I want to share all my life with him.
It's just that I've never liked the idea of being married (live with my parents for a week n u'll know why!) I think it's the perfect way to screw up a perfectly good relationship. But i'm taking the leap of faith ... why? For my parents who's only aim in life is to see their daughter live a "normal" life with her family. For the love of my life who wants to share his life with me, who attaches great importance to marriage but is willing to stay unmarried his whole life if i'm not ready ... but he CANT reconcile to the idea of a live-in relationship. But most of all, for my unborn child. No, i'm not pregnant ... not yet, anyway. But I want a baby ... more than anything else, and I don't want my child to suffer in any way because of my beliefs.
I dont know if these are good enough reasons to get married ... But hey, the date's out, the venue is booked ... guests have booked their tickets ... there's no turning back!!!
So the only question now is ... in the midst of all this hectic wedding planning, what the hell am I doing writing a blog? Well, here's why this blog comes into existence:
1. Sometimes it's easier to share certain thoughts with strangers than with people close to you ... There are less emotions attached ... Strangers are less likely to judge you ... and even if they do, you dont have to care.
2. Weddings can be confusing and wedding planning, even more so! So how about sharing some tips and ideas? Make life a li'l less traumatic for other lost souls caught in the trap,eh?
3. Hope to hear from people who took the plunge and are lovin it ... C'mon ppl, cheer me up! Puhleeeease!!!
